Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength;
loving someone deeply gives you courage.
Is this why I find it easy to feel courageous?loving someone deeply gives you courage.
Is this also why I never consider myself a strong person?
Or is this just a load of hooey ....
Seriously, thoughts people ???
And no, don't ask why I was eating Baci chocolates at 8:30am in the morning ......
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Not asking - I know you're a chocoholic :-)
No idea to the subject matter though. I'm a split personality when it comes to courage: basically timid, but CAN be courageous and leaving the timidity behind, so... do I love someone deeply?
Don't FEEL loved by many people unfortunately.
So - philosophical question taken a step further: does this quoted premise refer to someone in general, like family members or friends, or does it refer entirely to a partner or possible partner or wanted partner...
Probably rather a load of someone who thinks he/she's deep thinking...
I think its a load of hoey...
made to make those who aren't loved feel insecure.. and you don't get courage from being loved,it comes from within, you don't need another person to give you courage.
I think in some ways, knowing that someone loves you can give you the courage to do what you need to do without worrying that you'll end up alone for standing up for what you believe in. Don't know about strength though.
You hit the nail on the head Mariann.
I'm having my period so I'm an emotional wreck anyway. My dearly beloved supervisor undermined me with my staff again today. After agreeing how we would handle it, I did my bit and then he walked away and left me hanging. Yet again.
And I've finally admitted the truth about my relationship with Stephen. I fell for him a lot harder than I intended and a lot harder than I wanted and a hell of a lot harder than he fell for me.
I'll still go to Perth in July. He's still my friend and I've never been there so why not? I'll see a lovely new city and take lots of photos and there will probably be lots of hot monkey sex. But friendship is all he wants.
Hmmm. I don't think I have ever been deeply loved, so I can't comment on the first line. But as to loving deeply giving you courage? Yes and No. It is a double edged sword. I have never loved a partner deeply. My kids though are a whole different issue.
Do I feel courageous? When a large snarling dog charged me while I was walking Katie in the stroller, I felt courageous enough to face the dog, ready to attack it if need be, but terrified that if I failed, my child would be injured.
When I was 12 and found my best friend being choked to death, I hesitated not at all to attack the person choking her. When he collapsed, unconscious, I was terrified I had killed him.
I would take on anything to spare my children injury, but at the same time, the thought of them being injured can bring me to tears. So is it courage? I haven't a clue.
Maybe I am just a full-time emotional wreck (grin).
Anyway, I am very sorry about Stephen. Did he tell you he only wants to be friends or is it a feeling? I have never been deeply in love with anyone in that way. When I was young, everybody I loved the most died, so I just decided never to open myself up to that kind of hurt again. I had no idea how having kids would boot that descision out the window, but they are the only exception.
I could copy a large part of Sisu's reply as my own, in that, if I have been loved deeply, I am unaware of it - the couple that have professed this deep love have actually treated me as a possession; and have not really loved deeply myself, which I sometimes think is a failing on my part, but at other times, I think is just a product of the disappointments I've had in life, which are more than I think my not-pie-in-the-sky expectations should leave me with. Insert violin music here.
Strength, I believe, I have in spades; if I didn't, I seriously doubt I would be here now. Courage, I think I have too, but I also spend a lot of time picking my battles, and usually err on the side of caution and ease, which I can consider cowardice - and I don't like it, but there it is. I like to think that it is because I am not so self-centered that I just throw caution to the wind and do as I want, disregarding the effects of my actions on those around me. But, too, I know that I am lazy, and horribly, horribly efficient in order to feed my laziness. So it depends on if you consider finding the path of least resistance as a strength and involving courage; some days I do, some days I don't.
But the saying above may be believed by people, and it may work for people, those who have always been in an environment filled with love. This type of thinking has to exist somewhere in practice for so many people through the ages to speak it (in one form or another); either that, or the entire human race feels like I do, and we are all wishful-thinking, which I really hope is not the case....
When someone loves you "forever and ever, no matter what" it gives you the strength to do things you wouldn't normally do whether it is standing your ground or trying something out of the ordinary. It is a solid foundation that you build up from. Loving some one gives you the courage to be there for that someone, to be that foundation so that they can learn to fly and still have somewhere to return.
I think it's hooey. You either have a strong character or you don't and you're either willing to take risks in life or you're not.
Love has nothing to do with it. If anything being loved makes you more cautious in life because you have more than yourself to think about and loving somebody makes you afraid for them .. either their health and well being or their safety.
Being in a relationship is always a compromise no matter what. Unless you're a selfish b*tch like me and do whatever the hell you like anyway! lol
I was a bit afraid that would happen, Mel! I'm very relieved that you have realised it before the damage was done. I'm glad you still go to Perth! You may get a bit of closure about it.
But I'm still debating with myself that you wouldn't get the best out of the hot monkey sex if you're in it and he isn't... Unless you can cope with it of course. To me - it would be like seeing what *could* be, and what I'd miss in the end.
Just think about it whether he just makes himself a good few days and whether you can cope and not fall even harder :-(
If the balance is still right - do everything that promises a bit of fun!
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